El HIP, el nuevo modelo de matrimonio basado en una gran dedicación a la crianza de los hijos y no en el sexo o el dinero

BROOKINGS.- The marriage gap by social class is a source of anxiety, since it contributes to inequality – and to inequality of opportunity, too. Kids raised by married parents do better on all fronts. But it’s hard to tease out cause and effect. It seems unlikely that the act of getting married, or even the fact of being married, triggers big changes in parenting or employment.

Rather than focusing on where marriage is dying, it makes more sense to look at where it is surviving. As I argue in a piece for The Atlantic (“How To Save Marriage in America”), the marriages of the elite are not like the marriages of their parents, or the ones their parents rejected. In these new marriages, husband and wife are both earners, and both parents – and expect to be.

MARRIAGE: FOR THE CHILDREN These marriages are not based on sex, or money. They are based on parenting; and not just feed-the-kids parenting, but parenting in the form huge commitments of time, energy, money and attention to the educational, social and personal development of their offspring. These are High Investment Parenting (HIP) marriages.

Although HIP marriages are being pioneered at the top, they are needed across society. Bringing back “marriageable” men – ie. taciturn, semi-engaged breadwinners – is not the solution for poorer Americans.

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